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The Resource Deep secrets : boys' friendships and the crisis of connection, Niobe Way

Deep secrets : boys' friendships and the crisis of connection, Niobe Way

Label
Deep secrets : boys' friendships and the crisis of connection
Title
Deep secrets
Title remainder
boys' friendships and the crisis of connection
Statement of responsibility
Niobe Way
Creator
Subject
Language
eng
Summary
"Boys are emotionally illiterate and don't want intimate friendships". In this empirically grounded challenge to our stereotypes about boys and men, the author reveals the intense intimacy among teenage boys especially during early and middle adolescence. Boys not only share their deepest secrets and feelings with their closest male friends, they claim that without them they would go "wacko." Yet as boys become men, they become distrustful, lose these friendships, and feel isolated and alone. Drawing from hundreds of interviews conducted throughout adolescence with black, Latino, white, and Asian American boys, this work reveals the ways in which we have been telling ourselves a false story about boys, friendships, and human nature. Boys' descriptions of their male friendships sound more like "something out of Love Story than Lord of the Flies." Yet in late adolescence, boys feel they have to "man up" by becoming stoic and independent. Vulnerable emotions and intimate friendships are for girls and gay men. "No homo" becomes their mantra. These findings are alarming, given what we know about links between friendships and health, and even longevity. Rather than a "boy crisis," the author argues that boys are experiencing a "crisis of connection" because they live in a culture where human needs and capacities are given a sex (female) and a sexuality (gay), and thus discouraged for those who are neither. The author argues that the solution lies with exposing the inaccuracies of our gender stereotypes and fostering these critical relationships and fundamental human skills.--From publisher information
Cataloging source
DLC
http://library.link/vocab/creatorDate
1963-
http://library.link/vocab/creatorName
Way, Niobe
Dewey number
155.5/32
Index
index present
LC call number
BF575.F66
LC item number
W39 2011
Literary form
non fiction
Nature of contents
bibliography
http://library.link/vocab/subjectName
  • Male friendship
  • Emotions in adolescence
  • Emotions in children
  • Emotions in adolescence
  • Emotions in children
  • Male friendship
  • Adolescents
  • Human relations
  • Coming of age
  • Emotions
  • Conduct of life
  • Sexual behaviour - Psychology
  • Sexual behaviour
  • Adolescent psychology
Label
Deep secrets : boys' friendships and the crisis of connection, Niobe Way
Instantiates
Publication
Bibliography note
Includes bibliographical references (pages 283-314) and index
Carrier category
volume
Carrier category code
nc
Carrier MARC source
rdacarrier
Content category
text
Content type code
txt
Content type MARC source
rdacontent
Contents
The hidden landscape of boys' friendships -- Investigating boys, friendships, and human nature -- pt. 1. Friendships during early and middle adolescence -- "Sometimes you need to spill your heart out to somebody" -- Boys with feelings -- Nick and George : stories of resistance -- pt. 2. Friendships during late adolescence -- "When you grow up, your heart dies" -- As boys become men -- Fernando and Danny -- The crisis of connection
Control code
ocn676725355
Dimensions
22 cm
Extent
326 pages
Isbn
9780674072428
Lccn
2010047702
Media category
unmediated
Media MARC source
rdamedia
Media type code
n
System control number
  • (Sirsi) i9780674046641
  • (OCoLC)676725355
Label
Deep secrets : boys' friendships and the crisis of connection, Niobe Way
Publication
Bibliography note
Includes bibliographical references (pages 283-314) and index
Carrier category
volume
Carrier category code
nc
Carrier MARC source
rdacarrier
Content category
text
Content type code
txt
Content type MARC source
rdacontent
Contents
The hidden landscape of boys' friendships -- Investigating boys, friendships, and human nature -- pt. 1. Friendships during early and middle adolescence -- "Sometimes you need to spill your heart out to somebody" -- Boys with feelings -- Nick and George : stories of resistance -- pt. 2. Friendships during late adolescence -- "When you grow up, your heart dies" -- As boys become men -- Fernando and Danny -- The crisis of connection
Control code
ocn676725355
Dimensions
22 cm
Extent
326 pages
Isbn
9780674072428
Lccn
2010047702
Media category
unmediated
Media MARC source
rdamedia
Media type code
n
System control number
  • (Sirsi) i9780674046641
  • (OCoLC)676725355

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